And I disagree when people say that the mother is the most crucial.
Elbereth, if you reflect on what I said earlier, I said that the mother was the most crucial to the baby, not in the child's entire lifetime. Babies have a natural instinct to want their mother first and foremost, and the mothers are the source of food, etc.
Again I say, the mothers are so very important to a baby that it cannot be stressed how very important they are. But I am not saying that through the child's whole life the choice should always be 'mother' over 'father.' I am saying that a baby finds the mother a lot more crucial than the father.
I think you will agree with me that a little baby girl isn't going to be talking about things with her father. (Understand, please, that I am teasing you when I say this.)
But there are fine living examples of children past babyhood who had only their father and they became wonderful adults. St. Therese (and I am NOT trying to through religion into the debate; pretend I just said 'Therese;' I added 'St.' the make her a specific Therese)'s mother died when she was very young, though she was past her babyhood years. She was raised by her father (though she did have four older sisters) and grew up to be wonderful: in fact, a saint (or, if you please, a person of exceptional kindness, goodness, and virtue).
The riddles of God are more satisfying than the solutions of man. -- G.K. Chesterton
I myself am a stay-at-home mom homeschooling 5 out of 6 kids. Needless to say I do have pretty strong feelings regarding a woman's place. There is a difference between woman and mother.
A woman has every freedom and choice available as does a mother, but for a mother to make poor choices, the consequenses are imeasurable. When we become mothers are first priority has to be our children. They are such huge responsibility for they are the next generation.
I worked for awhile when I only had one or two kids, the kids stayed with my sister, and that didn't seem to bad since she was family. Then after I divorced I worked full time with my sister watching the kids. In this there was no choice. I had to provide for my kids because there was no one else. I quit working when I was pregnant with my fourth child. Day care became too expensive, I might as well have given the babysitter my whole paycheck. For by this time they were no longer with my sister, but with a regular babysitter.
After the birth of my last child, I was finally able to work again. I got a job at a dairy, feeding calves. It was a great way to get back into shape after having my daughter. . The best part was that I could take the kids with me.
The boss had to let me go due to cutbacks, but now I'm homeschooling my kids, and I love the feeling it brings me. It felt so awful to have the kids going to public or even Christian school because they were away from me and in a sense being raised by someone else. God gave me those precious children, so the least I can do is take the best care of them I can.
I absolutely agree with everything Nurumaiel has said. I know that single mom's have to work sometimes, but other mothers do have the choice to stay home with their kids, even if it means living within a budget. Its not impossible to do, its just a little more difficult, but very worthwhile.
Kids can do without alot of things, but they shouldn't have to without their mom, or dad depending on their ages as Nurumail said. I nursed my babies, and my youngest I nursed until she was a few months passed when was finally weaned. After that, she became Daddy's girl. She loves going places with him without me. Of course she loves going places with me too. hehe The truth is she just hates getting left behind.